Five Ways To Be A Better Dad

By Renee, LSWA

In case you hadn't noticed, Father's Day is just around the corner. If you're like my seven-year-old son, you can't wait to give the perfect card and coolest gift to dad. But for some of you, Father's Day is going to be a difficult day. Memories of a broken relationship or the death of your father aren't really what you want to celebrate. In fact, you'd just rather skip the day altogether.

The truth is you can't. Yes, you can choose not to celebrate but each of us knows a father, and they need our support and encouragement. Fatherhood is a tough job and just as vital as motherhood in the healthy development of children and the unity of the family. Unfortunately, if you have watched any amount of television, you know that fathers are portrayed as either insignificant and stupid or controlling and domineering. Where is the portrayal of the dad that my seven-year-old son adores? He does exist and I see him in my husband, my friends and my dad. They are the dads I want to celebrate and encourage with a few suggestions on how they can be a better dad.

1. Be a Role Model

Your children are watching your every move and comparing them to what they see on television. Show them something different from the image the world presents. Fathers can teach their sons what really is important in life by demonstrating respect, honesty and responsibility. Fathers can model for their daughters what to look for in a husband and play a vital role in building her self-esteem.

2. Respect Your Children's Mother

Keep your marriage strong and vital. Show your children that you respect their mother. If you're not married, it is just as important to respect and support their mother. This helps to foster a sense of security in the home.

3. Be a Teacher

Too often parents in general think this is something others do. You are the #1 teacher in your child's life. They need to learn right from wrong and be encouraged to do their best from you. In turn, you will see them make good choices. Be involved and find those teachable moments in everyday life.

4. Discipline with Love

Provide guidance and discipline and set reasonable limits. Not as a punishment but as a reminder of the consequences of their actions. Fathers who discipline in a fair and calm manner, show love to their children.

5. Spend Time with Your Children

How you spend time with your children speaks volumes to that child. It truly is the case of "actions speak louder than words." Don't miss out on the opportunities that may never come around again. Your child will feel treasured and important.

In everything, realize that the job of a father never ends. Your children will always look to you for love, wisdom and advice. Your children don't need the perfect father, just their father. For more information and support go to The National Fatherhood Initiative.